Dating Advice For Single Parents…DON’T’S!
Okay, so you are a single parent. How did you get here? Is this what you had in mind? Of course not. Who in their right mind would EVER want to raise a child or children alone, but you have found yourself here. So what now? What is the best advice about dating? How does one go about continuing to raise their children alone and still have room, time and energy for dating?
We will approach this subject in a very unique way; we will state the problems so that you are forced to pursue the solution. Here we have stated a list of “don’t’s.” If you study and know these rules, then it will be much easier to understand what you should do as a single parent when it comes to dating.
DON’T'S:
DON’T ever assume that every person you meet and have “chemistry” with will understand your plight as a single parent. Most people put their best foot forward for the first time they meet you. Make sure you always remain truthful to yourself because if you ask the right questions, you will always find the real person lying beneath the outer shell. True character can NEVER be hidden for long.
DON’T ever take it lightly when your closest friends or relatives do not like the person you are spending time with. Now this is not to say that you totally rely on whatever your family and friends think about someone because, yes, they can be wrong. However, if your best friend detests a certain person you choose to date, there’s probably a really good reason for it. You can tell a lot about a person just by looking at their five closest friends. Being involved so closely with someone, you are less likely to see some undesirable character trait. Your best friend or family are sure to point them out.
DON’T take them around your children too soon. Now, this one may sound like a given but sometimes, the individual will allow you to feel so comfortable with them that you feel like they just may be the “real deal.” You feel that taking them around your children will not do any harm. YES IT WILL!!! Because, what happens when the honeymoon phase is over and you cannot stand to be in the same city as this person? Then you have let your children down because this person is gone. Do yourself and your children a favor, DON’T.
DON’T ever let desperate rule your choices and decisions. Yes, it’s understandable that oftentimes you may get frustrated and tired of being and doing it alone. But, this is when you are least likely to make rational decisions. So whenever you feel like your loneliness is getting the best of you, DON’T!
DON’T ever ignore that feeling inside of you that states that something about the person/relationship is not right. Most of the time, whatever you are feeling is the TRUTH! Most people show you exactly who they are right from the moment you meet them. If you choose to walk blindly and or act out of pure loneliness and desperation, then you will remain with someone that you are not happy with until ultimately one of you decides to end the relationship. Then you are right back where you started.
If you follow these simple but very powerful rules of how NOT to approach dating, then you will find that you make a lot wiser choices and decisions.
