Is your sex life a bit lackluster?  Here are 10 great tips to spice it up.

1.  Some of you are a little bored with the missionary position.   Try something new.  How about the kitchen table, the carpet in the living room, the office desk, the stairs, or the hood of the car?  Would you like deeper penetration?  Try the armchair position.  The woman sits in an armchair and wraps her arms and legs around the man.  The man kneels in front of her and enters while holding onto the back of the armchair.

2.  Do you swallow?  Recent studies show that semen contains components that can relieve stress and lower depression.  See (1) below.

3.  Talk dirty.  Most men and women get turned on by dirty talk.  Begin with something innocent then gradually turn it into something more graphic.

4.  Don’t have sex toys?  Make your own.  For women, peel a cucumber down to the perfect size.  For men, pick your favorite soft fruit and carve away.  See (2) below.

5. Yes, anal sex is still a taboo.  But, penetration is not the only option.  It can be used during foreplay.  Stimulate your partner’s anus with your finger while performing oral sex on him or her.  If you want to try penetration, the least hurtful position is a side-by-side position.  This prevents deep penetration.

6.  Guys, stop worrying about your size.  So what if you aren’t exactly on the large end of the scale?   Try out positions that allow for deeper penetration.  Doggie style is a classic.  Then there is the yoga missionary.  It works like the missionary position but you gently press the woman’s knees together and against her belly and then enter her in an upright position sitting on your knees in front of her.  A third position for small guys is the snake.  The woman lies flat on her tummy with her legs closed or crossed.  Straddle her hips in an upright position and spread her thighs just enough to allow for penetration.

7.  Are you having trouble getting an erection?  Do you go soft as soon as you have entered her?  It’s most likely stress and performance anxiety.  Drinking doesn’t help either.  Being tired is a sex killer.  Try sex in the morning.  It’s usually easier to get hard in the wee hours.  Of course, you could have an erectile dysfunction.  If so, visit your doctor for treatment.

8.  Women, find your G-spot.  It’s a slightly bumpy or ridged area on the upper wall of your vagina, not far inside the vagina.  I would say it’s about an inch or an inch and a half from the opening of your vagina.  And, of course, it exists.  It’s just the name of an area inside the vagina.  The question is whether that area is especially sensitive for you and can help you achieve an organism.  Only you can tell.

9.  Multiple orgasms?  Some women achieve multiple orgasms very easily because they are hyper-sensitive by nature.  Others don’t.  Taking a brief break before going at it again usually helps.   The same goes for guys.  In fact, a short break is essential for most guys.  They simply cannot engage in back-to-back intercourse.  Some even find it painful.

10.  Men, do you really want great sex?  The best tip of all is…women first.  Kinsey found that 75% of men ejaculate within two minutes.  More recent studies seem to dispute this.  But regardless, once the man has penetrated the woman, he tends to come rather quickly.  So, if the woman is not hyper-sensitive or doesn’t usually achieve orgasms through vaginal penetration, guys, you should take care of her needs first.

Whatever you do, practice safe sex.   Don’t forget to use a condom.  Get HIV and other tests before engaging in any sexual activity.

References

(1) The Health Benefits of Semen
(2) Homemade Sex Toys