“What are you doing for Father’s Day?” “How are you going to spend the day?”  As a single working mom, I’m sick of hearing about the holiday already.  My relationship with my own father is great, but I’m talking about my son’s father.

I’m sure that as single moms you have dealt with the negativity around Father’s Day.  Either your child’s father is not around or you wish he weren’t.

Maybe your child’s dad doesn’t deserve to be celebrated.  So how do you deal with this?

If your child doesn’t have a relationship with his dad, have him shop for a significant man in his life, i.e. grandpas, uncles and godfathers.  Help him realize that even though dad isn’t around, he still has important men in his life

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If your child does have a relationship with his father (as mine does), take him shopping for a gift anyway.  Why?  Because even though you feel your child’s father isn’t doing his job, your child may feel differently.

You know what I mean.  Your son or daughter sees dad and takes off running, leaving you in the dust!  Don’t take it personally.  Your children have a right to love their father.  Let them.

A good friend once told me that even though kids may not see it now, they will see who stuck by them, who provided for them and who took care of them.  That did comfort me and gave me hope.

So this Father’s Day, celebrate a special man in your child’s life whether it’s dad, grandpa, uncle or godfather.  Keep positive single moms and stay strong!