Okay, now I know I’m going to make somebody angry when I say this.  If you are the other woman, do you go around telling your friends?  How does it come up in conversation?  Are you sitting around at the coffee shop with your girlfriends and casually mention, “By the way, did you guys know that I am the other woman?”  If you are willing to admit it, then my next question would be,why?

Why do some women feel that they have to be someone’s sloppy seconds or second best?  Now, don’t go getting upset because I called you sloppy seconds or second best.  The truth hurts because that is exactly what you are when you are the other woman.  Is it that your self-esteem and self -worth do not allow you to believe that you can be with someone who has you and only you in his heart and on his mind?

For all of you critics out there who are thinking, “Well what about all of the women who do not KNOW that they are the other woman?”  Obviously, I am not talking to or about them because they do not know and if they did, some of them would leave the man right where he stood.  On the other hand, some of them would still stay with the man hoping to make him leave his wife.  Let me be the first to say, even if he does leave his wife for you, why would you think he would not eventually do the same thing to you?

I’m a firm believer in you reap what you sow and what goes around comes right back around again.  I have lived long enough to see a LOT of things that I have done in the past, come right back to me, both good and bad.   I do not want to live a life that is full of deception, lies and half truths because I do not want that coming back to me.  Therefore, I will not get myself into a situation where these things are a constant factor.

Remember the expresssion, ‘woman’s intuition’?  We get the feeling that something isn’t quite right.  If you don’t know whether or not you are the other woman, listen to that gut feeling.  Nine times out of ten, you will be correct.  How many of you know that you are the other woman?  What are you prepared to do about it?